Retirement; like your parents, but way cooler
In 1991 Billy and Akaisha Kaderli retired at the age
of 38. Now, into their 4th decade of this
financially independent lifestyle, they invite you
to take advantage of their wisdom and experience.
5 Tips to
Change Your Life
Billy and Akaisha Kaderli
Panoramic view of Lake Atitlan,
As we go through Life, we tend to pick up some wisdom. Hopefully we learn a
more stress-free manner of living, a style of engaging more confidently,
with less conflict to our days.
Below are five tips on how to move in this direction of personal peace, and
they will change your life if you implement them.
Identify what’s most important to you. Eliminate everything else.
have so many choices in our lives, from TV shows, cereal boxes, restaurants,
digital toys and the clothes we wear. We as a generation were told we could
have everything, but that can be stressful just trying to keep up with it
you identify what’s important to you – is it exercise in the morning? A nap
in the afternoon? Continuing education? Seeing your grandchildren regularly?
Animal rescue? – then it’s easier to eliminate all those other things that
fill up our lives and wear us out.
first it might be hard to “prune the tree” or cut back on your calendar of
events, but if you are feeling exhausted, stressed or scattered, the peace
you will achieve by doing this tip will be worth it.
Declutter on a regular basis
Clutter has a way of crowding out our minds and bodies and making us feel
chronically stressed and closed in. Time is lost trying to find an object,
and the frustration level rises. There are lots of books on the value of
De-cluttering and how to do it effectively.
Try this: Pull everything off a shelf our out of a drawer, and clean the
shelf or drawer. Go through items you have pulled out and be merciless and
efficient. Make a ball out of all that string, put rubber bands into a
plastic bag. Throw away anything broken, unusable or that does not ring your
chimes. Have two bags handy – one for the trash, and one for the give-away:
Church, Goodwill, the school down the street, the assisted living center.
de-clutter on a regular basis, you can take a shelf or drawer as a
project and it can be done in a short time. Do another drawer next week.
Soon the simplicity accumulates and you will be feeling less stressed and
more at ease.
There’s no wrong decision here
Sometimes we get paralysis of analysis, and we just don’t seem to be moving
forward with something. Maybe we feel that our decision has to be perfect or
that the outcome must be guaranteed. We might be afraid of the results of
our decision or that we might be perceived as less than intelligent.
most situations, just make a decision. Get off the block of inertia.
Sometimes you just have to get the energy moving, and then more ideas come
in. You can always change your mind, or make improvements, or learn
something new or gather more information which will guide you to your next
you take the viewpoint that there is no wrong decision, it will be easier
for you to flow through life with less tension and guilt.
Akaisha goofing off. Have fun with
Just Say Yes!
easy to fall into a comfortable routine – tennis twice a week, a favorite
restaurant on Friday night, bridge game on Thursdays… It gives us a sense of
security, knowing what to expect out of our days and weeks ahead. It can
make us feel calm, lulling ourselves to sleep and soon the comfortable
routine becomes a rut!
did that happen?
Taking a different route to the grocery store, trying a new food item on the
menu, taking an impromptu trip to the mountains or to the beach can
security and be a bother. Or it can enliven you,
challenge your mind, and maybe cause you to meet someone outside of your
deciding to walk on the other side of the street, or utilizing your
non-dominant hand brings changes to your brain that are beneficial. New
neurological pathways are created and that’s a GOOD thing!
saying “yes” to new things a little more often and see how it enriches your
things aren’t going to plan, it’s time to change the plan.
We’ve all been there.
In a situation where things are difficult, nothing is working, everything
seems to be frozen stuck. Taxi arrives late, the traffic is awful, a car
hits a puddle and our white clothing is covered in street muck. We like to
call this feeling “Pushing the elephant up the hill.” And that’s a LOT of
If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it.
What can you change? The restaurant you were going to for dinner? Your
airline tickets to a new location? Take your dog to the groomers on a
different day? Reschedule a meeting?
Changing your plans in times such as these will bring you such a sense of
relief. You can let that elephant do what it wants and you are no longer in
charge of it getting to the top of that hill.
The break in tension will be so palpable that you might just laugh out loud.
And that’s a GREAT idea.
About the Authors
Early Lifestyle appeals to a different
kind of person – the person who prizes their
independence, values their time, and who doesn’t
want to mindlessly follow the crowd.
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